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“Aren’t you basically sleeping with a guy the same age as your son?”

It was this question that first started the idea behind this blog. A friend, or someone I thought had been a friend, turned around and said that to my face, feeling brave after a cheeky couple of glasses of wine. Who the hell did she think she was? This was my love life; my love choices. What the hell did it have to do with her anyway?

I guess, after a few days of calming down, I could see where she was coming from. I didn’t have children, but she was the same age as me and she did have a couple of kids. One of them – her eldest boy, was only two years younger than the guy I was dating at the time. I was 45 and he was 27. He was one of the most passionate lover I had ever had, and if I’m truly honest with myself, one of the biggest of my love interests, but she couldn’t see how happy he had made me. All she could see was the bad stuff… the fact that he was much younger than me, that he didn’t have a steady job, he didn’t have a plan for his life. None of that stuff mattered to me. None of that stuff matters when you are in love. Isn’t age just a number anyway?

I decided to write this blog on Cougar Dating or Granny Dating, or whatever term takes your fancy, to put the myths to bed surrounding older women dating younger men. I’ve heard every myth and misconception under the sun in the past few years that I have dated and enjoyed younger boys. In fact, not boys, men.

When an older woman is attracted to a younger guy, she is not stalking her prey like some crazy bitch. She doesn’t go out on the prowl looking for young men to eat for breakfast. These younger guys, they pop up when you least expect them. I’ve gone on dates with men I’ve met in coffee shops, in my local gym, in the swimming pool, and even the local supermarket. It’s normally when I think I lough rough as hell but to them, I have a glow that they can’t keep away from. I’d even go as far as to say that these guys prowl for the older women, not vice versa! I’ve not once approached a younger guy; they have always approached me.

The Cougar is not a woman to be taken lightly. If she is anything like me, she will be smart and headstrong. Most of the older women I know that enjoy dating younger men have the same sort of personality types – they are strong, passionate and incredibly successful in whatever they choose to do in life. I have a girl crush on every single one of my “Cougar” friends!

You name the very few things that you know about {older women – younger men} relationships and I can pretty much guarantee that there won’t be an element of truth in any of it. They are not just looking for men to use and abuse; they want loving relationships just as much as they want to have fun. They are looking for companionship and at the end of the day, isn’t that what we are all looking for in life?

So… you can class this as your education, with a little helpful insight into the world of dating an older woman. Are you sitting comfortably? You could be in for a rather bumpy ride! 😉


Janet J xox